Stages of Seduction: Actions (Seducing the mind and the heart)
Stages of seduction between men and women, and really all things involving the heart and mind involve actions… Actions speak louder than any words. In fact if you want to really know someone, judge them on their actions not their words.
It is probably best if I start this post with a warning. Of course a lot of my posts should come with warnings. I am NOT a feminist. I don’t want to do a man’s work; for one thing, I don’t have the muscles for it. I mean, who the hell wants a firefighter who isn’t strong enough to sling me over his shoulder and hall my fat ass out of a burning building?
That said; I DO believe that men and women are equal, equal but different. We all have our strengths and weaknesses and we have to live our lives according to what we are good at.
So, what is the point?
I want to be treated special by a man, because I am special. I want him to hold doors open for me. I want him to open the car door and close it after I get in. I want him to push my chair in at a fancy restaurant. What does he get out of it? I loving giving my man back rubs, leg rubs, cooking his dinner (although I admit I am a terrible cook), I love watching his sports games and cheering him on and I like fetching his coffee or beer. It makes me happy to do things that bring him pleasure.
I look at the whole thing as a win-win situation. He does small things for me, and I do small things for him. That way, we both feel special, for me that’s just part of a loving relationship. It’s not about doing things to get something in return; it’s about caring and giving because you want to. It’s about seducing the mind, and the heart.
That, at long last, brings us to the point of this post. Our actions are an important part of the seduction process. Keep in mind that different actions can be considered seductive depending on the situation. When a man you just met, or just discovered your attraction to, tucks a stray curl behind your ear, he is seducing you. The same action from the man you’ve been with for ten years can be seductive, or simply caring. The distinction is small, but it is there. For the purpose of this post, we are assuming seduction by someone you know, but are not yet intimate with.
There are dozens, maybe hundreds or thousands of actions that are seductive (or repulsive if he’s a creep.)
Gosh, is there anything better than that first soft smile from across the room, the one that says “I’ve noticed you.” Or maybe that sexy wink and smile? Or how about some of these:
Noticing you need a drink
Bringing you flowers
Massaging your neck
Holding your hand
Opening doors for you
Casually touching your hair or tucking that stray hair behind your ear
Brushing the back of his hand gently across your cheek
Gentle touches of your hand or arm
A soft brushing of his foot against yours under the table
A text message out of the blue for no reason
Carrying your packages (even when they are light)
A quick hug when he sees you and it lasts just a second too long to be just friendly
Reaching across the table to feed you his fries, one by one
The soft touch of his hand at the base of your spine as he leads you someplace quiet to chat
Many of us are in long term relationships, or are married. That doesn’t mean actions can’t still seduce our hearts and minds. Think about how you feel when he …
Surprises you with flowers or a small gift for no reason
Cooks you a special meal
Does the housework as a surprise
Fixes you a bubble bath
Takes the kids out for a few hours so you can be alone
Brings you drinks or coffee without asking
Anticipates your needs
Plans a special seduction
Waits for you INSIDE the lingerie store without seeming creepy or embarrassed
You may have noticed that most of these actions are not sexual in any way at all. That’s the point! When I think about the actions of seduction, I don’t think about seducing your body, but rather seducing the mind.
Any halfway good looking person can be sexually attractive, and in the right circumstances, with the right touches can seduce your body, but it takes special effort to seduce a woman’s mind, and even more so to seduce her heart.
Here’s a question for you: What special action is sure to seduce your mind, or your heart?